In Memory Of Feminity’s Dresses

The Memory Of Feminity's Dresses And Finding It

In Memory Of Feminity’s Dresses

Because

It’s somewhere out of that world and should be found again.

Today is Saturday-  the first day of the weekend is usually spent at the MALL, Beach, or somewhere out to show off for the families. A long time ago, I also believed that is an excellent way to spend time together. I do not think like that anymore because my truth’s eyes look different.

I see women that look not like one, even with the best branded or comfortable clothes, and men that continue showing off with their money. The ladies have no feminity. The people call themselves a family, without even looking like one.

How do I dare to say that without knowing what is in their heads and memory?

I state the facts because I work with many clients and spend my time alone observing humans. When I was in my delusionally happy relationship, I wore comfortable clothes, believing they were the right for me. I did not dare to wear a red dress or lipstick.

Why Should I?

My former man did not care for my outlook. Sadly, males forget their women are feminine energies that need balance and be taken care of. Every lady needs respect, a flirt, smile, love, and compliments. It doesn’t matter if she looks strong

I do not hate or blame men because they’re at fault exactly as much as women. Both parties allowed themselves to forget their sex and family responsibilities. Partners look as good as they treat each other. If they share their obligations, they both are happy and healthy. If not – everyone knows how it looks.

That is what I see: neglected women and overconfident men. It’s ugly, and I know it. My post today is to look for the Feminity between the ashes of daily routines and unhealed inner feelings of discontent, forgetting human equality.

Should I blame the Comfortable feeling or not for the Feminity’s lack?

A beautiful dress will not change the woman’s feelings. It is more like a reminder to remember women should not go too far, in feminism’s terms. I agree all sexes need equal rights for voting,  payment, etc.

But, showing off is another thing – inhuman and arrogant, most of the time.

 What about being a firewoman or female miner?

A profession like this needs more physical strength and mathematical thinking. Only a few ladies have these skills, and I have no wish to be that way. My belief is a woman should earn enough money to live on her own because it is inevitable for her to stay alone for different life reasons, but I do not agree with racism, sexism, etc. words that sound like male-hating. It’s natural for men to give it a shot and start to be female haters. Whatever goes around, comes back.

Women are humans and have the right to choose how they live. I post here with a clear head that many ladies in Muslim countries are treated like a possession. They do not need someone’s ownership and aren’t comfortable clothes to wear around. At some point, many males are like that too. Times changed, and now the alpha females treat their boyfriend as their pet, or toy, or make him do things he doesn’t want, ordering around and not speaking calmly.

Is that Feminism or using someone for personal interest?

Unfortunately, many men treat their women exactly like that. I do not mind the attitude “That is my girl,” and showing it off, but when it becomes an obsession it is time to have a serious talk. Right said women like to feel assured they’re the one for their man, and he is only theirs. Balance in everything is the key to happy living.

Should they be the epitome of every other woman?

Feminity is not in the clothes, makeup, or losing the self.  It is the feminine energy that attracts a man who indeed will care for his girl. The masculine energy will lead only if the woman allows her boyfriend to lead in his way without judgment. It is always easier to run away in someone’s else arms without learning to speak.  That, in the end, seems false because a woman is not one in her heart.

Womanhood starts with wearing a dress. It sounds crazy, but it is the truth, and I will tell you why from my observations.

Back in 2012, I broke my leg and was at my home, staying in depression, which made me look for a way out because I had suicidal thoughts.

I started to work online to have a goal because couldn’t stand up on my feet. Doing it eight hours daily brought me no success and became more depressed, and even starting to walk again did not bring me happiness.

I heard about personal development training with Dr. Menis Yousry. He is a great person, and many of my old attitude patterns broke. I released the emotional chains that were rooted in my childhood.

Since the two seminars I had, I started to wear a dress, understanding it makes me beautiful as I am – in my body and mind.

Putting on that type of clothes felt weird to me because I thought I was everything else but not a woman.  Looking back at that time, I put on a gothic dress for the first time on the last seminar’s day. I always loved Gothic Culture but never dare to wear clothes like these because my family criticized me for my outlook.

My boyfriends did not compliment me when I wore dresses and thought they were polite. Of course, that was in my head, because from a young age, I didn’t have the emotional support I longed for, feeling ugly in men’s eyes.

Today I built up my feminity’s confidence. The dresses gave me that feeling and helped to open the woman’s part of my mind, looking pretty. When I am not in a dress, I feel uncomfortable, wondering why women should wear the same clothes as men.

Both sexes are different in terms of physical appearance and thinking way. They should complement what each other lacks. Some people will say male clothes are more comfortable, but I do not agree because I love my dresses which are making me feel free to express my womanhood. They are comfortable clothes every female deserves to wear.

What about the Memory of Feminity’s Dresses?

It should not be forgotten. Women have the same power as men in a different way, but without each other, both parties can not survive. Looking at today’s families, I see tiredness to self-showing from the fear of losing someone or something. One of my friends said that nothing is eternal.

I want to believe in the eternity of Feminity and True Love, even if it sounds a bit like X-Files.  That is the difference between males and females – the beliefs.

Men lose it while pursuing an ideal, women do the same because they forget they should be the feminine energy that releases the masculinity.

The dress is only the accessory that creates the Feminiy in one woman.

A man, who loves feminine energy never will leave his chosen one. The same goes for a woman who truly loves the masculine energy of her boyfriend. 

Feminity contains qualities like keeping ground, self-care, setting healthy boundaries, self-respect, no judgment, the knowledge that nobody is perfect, and thoughts about how can the faults be transformed into positives, without changing the personality.

I give an example: when a man sleeps late, the woman goes mad, and it should not be like that. The girl may go out to do something she enjoys doing alone because everyone needs “me-time” or to surprise her partner. The same goes for the man.

Turning negative into positive is connected with channeling the energy into doing something useful: sport, cleaning, renovating, or going outside to visit art cafes, for example.  Being mad and quarreling is a big turn-off. But, if the man sleeps every day without doing anything, there is a need for serious talk without a high tone and listening from both sides about their point of view.

The big question is the acceptance of the partner’s flaws, or not. If they can not be accepted, the relationship shouldn’t start. In my first stages of talking with potential partners, I point out my flaws to not waste each other’s time.

After I had deep introspection, I knew what I can give to the other person and what not.

How to wake up Feminine Energy?

A start with a dress and red lipstick is a good idea that will open the mind to boldness and clears the head from unrealistic expectations in every life area. Women should accept they are emotional, romantic, and tender. Whatever they do, they will not have man’s logic and should act like women, without power struggles.

Kisses, makeup, smiles, flirting, making the man laugh, and listening when needed, are good starts for waking up the Feminity. Men should do the same for their ladies, but they should act as protective as they are, showing emotions a bit more in a balanced way, caring for their lady – it helps Masculinity.

Many people may argue with me, but I believe the Dress, Lipstick, and Nail color always will look better on women. They are their signature, in terms of Feminity that attracts and calms others, showing self-respect. The ladies should wear them proudly and not neglect themselves, transforming into a man they will never be.

Men should not act shy around every kind of woman if they want to be with her. I know the risk of rejection is big, but it’s always better to try and fail than never asking, staying stuck in fear.  Moving on is inevitable until life dies.

Thank you for your time.
Sources:

Feminity

Empowering Feminity

What Is Toxic Feminity?

Wearing Red Dress With Confidence

That Is All Women Need To Feel Inspired.

Many women lack self-esteem. That is because they do not look pretty enough in their own eyes. It doesn’t matter if the reason is overweight, cellulite or acne on the face. The outlook changes with time and age.
The problem here is not the look outside, but the feeling women have inside.
Worries at home, work, and social relationships play a huge role in low women’s confidence. The television stereotypes that women should look likewise, and social media hit hard the self-esteem.
The media is part of the daily lives of everyone.

What can we all do?

Just ignore the thought that everyone should be the same on the outside look.
The most important thing is to be realistic.

What does one woman have and what not?


When this is understood, things change. All women can wear a proudly red dress. The important thing is the clothing style of that dress.


But what is the red dress?


That is the self-confidence of women themselves. They should wear good quality clothes even if they feel bad inside.
The quality doesn’t mean the most expensive dress, but the one that fits right on women’s bodies. For example, curvy girls should wear clothes that show well their better body parts than problematic ones.
Speaking metaphorically, red is the color of confidence and strength. Today’s women live a different life than in the old times. They emancipate but want to stay women also. That can happen but without the expectation of better treatment.
When the girl is younger, she wants to be sexy without knowing the right thing about this look.
A sexy look is not to show up the body’s part, but to be a confident woman. Wherever women go, they should look adequate for their age and have a human attitude.
It doesn’t matter how bad one woman feels, but she should take care of herself.

Who else will do it?

Most men look for beautiful girls they can control. A girl that he can show up to. That is not a bad thing but is too ordinary.
The difference between pretty girls and mature women wearing red dresses is simple. Girls want to show their bodies to invite men to take care of them by playing stupid with their beauty. Another reason is that the girls are lazy to grow up and invest money in themselves, and I mean their minds.
Mature Women that wear red dresses have their dignity. They know they are not so pretty and carefree as younger ones, but they have more consistency. They have a career, children, and their shoulders to lay.
Mature women are partners, and young girls are not.
A red dress can be worn only by a woman that knows where she is going and treasures herself.
When women give childbirth, they forget about themselves and take care of their looks.

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It is inevitable for the woman to go back on herself. Because when the woman age, she understands better new day she can see her child and the sunrise is a gift.
The clothes she wore are dusty as her role as the victim should be taken care of by someone else.
The young glitter and naivety fade away because a grown-up, mature woman knows most of her life is gone.
When children grow up, husbands become distant and uncaring a safe place for the woman is herself. She should wear the best she can for all that she has been through in her life.
That means the red dress. Expectations are gone, naivety too, and there is no more need for a mature woman to make herself pretty for someone else than her.
The red dress brings up the boldness, lust for life, and the motivation to move on.
After every break-up with a man or friend, the grown woman knows she still has herself. She always will.
In the bottle of wine and tears drawn, the woman becomes a better version of herself, a wiser one. A load of worries begins to become chaotic until it fades.
The problematic figure becomes the best sanctuary that hides the purer soul of one wiser woman.
The red dress also brings strength to fight with daily routines. The woman sees a different point of view. She begins to accept that she will not be young again and that no more men will chase her because she is now an equal partner that can not be easily impressed.
Undoubtedly, that makes her proud and feel unworthy because she is not a stereotyped media model, fading away.
The problem here comes if the woman doesn’t accept herself as she is.

If the woman doesn’t accept her flaws, it is not good. She will not grow up. Here comes low self-esteem with phrases like: “I am not pretty, nobody will take me” or “I have nothing to do with my life anymore”.


May I ask why?

For example, you gave birth, and you have to see your kid at the prom. Probably the kids are grown, and you are alone at home. Asking me, that is a great thing, to learn something new and enrich your life. You can dance, write and do whatever you like. Nobody will watch or judge you.

Or you may be a successful business lady?

So you did it, girl! There is always a reason to feel proud and to move on.
Life is too short for any delays, so it should be enlightening daily.
After I gave birth to my kid, I became stronger and healthier. Now I am great at dancing Zumba and also in blogging. My discipline is better, and I am more organized. If an ordinary woman like me can do it, all can do it too.
All is about the mind’s peace. As soon as women accept they can do all they want to, they will do it. They understand they are on their own. No man can bring a woman back to life. But she can do it.
I also bought a red dress, and I wear it proudly. I never thought to try to wear a red dress. But now I can feel myself in it. All my experiences and bittersweet life lessons are my honor.
Is it true my luck in my love life is missing, but do I need any outside love? It will come when the time is right.
Women with red dresses are great partners. They will not suffocate men and will not accept some sweet-coated words without actions. That is happiness and wearing a proudly red dress.


It was Long ago Sheakspere told it: “Do you know why I am happy? Because I do not expect anything from anyone.”

In the end, after every hard life lesson, women go proudly with their makeup, stilettos, and red nails too.


Or should I say like my friend and Zumba trainer Irene Barrera “When life is hard, let’s dance through it!”


Wearing a red dress is a thing that all women should remember when they are feeling bad.
Your dress is unique and meaningful. Just imagine it and collect its pieces.

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