In Memory Of Feminity’s Dresses

The Memory Of Feminity's Dresses And Finding It

In Memory Of Feminity’s Dresses

Because

It’s somewhere out of that world and should be found again.

Today is Saturday-  the first day of the weekend is usually spent at the MALL, Beach, or somewhere out to show off for the families. A long time ago, I also believed that is an excellent way to spend time together. I do not think like that anymore because my truth’s eyes look different.

I see women that look not like one, even with the best branded or comfortable clothes, and men that continue showing off with their money. The ladies have no feminity. The people call themselves a family, without even looking like one.

How do I dare to say that without knowing what is in their heads and memory?

I state the facts because I work with many clients and spend my time alone observing humans. When I was in my delusionally happy relationship, I wore comfortable clothes, believing they were the right for me. I did not dare to wear a red dress or lipstick.

Why Should I?

My former man did not care for my outlook. Sadly, males forget their women are feminine energies that need balance and be taken care of. Every lady needs respect, a flirt, smile, love, and compliments. It doesn’t matter if she looks strong

I do not hate or blame men because they’re at fault exactly as much as women. Both parties allowed themselves to forget their sex and family responsibilities. Partners look as good as they treat each other. If they share their obligations, they both are happy and healthy. If not – everyone knows how it looks.

That is what I see: neglected women and overconfident men. It’s ugly, and I know it. My post today is to look for the Feminity between the ashes of daily routines and unhealed inner feelings of discontent, forgetting human equality.

Should I blame the Comfortable feeling or not for the Feminity’s lack?

A beautiful dress will not change the woman’s feelings. It is more like a reminder to remember women should not go too far, in feminism’s terms. I agree all sexes need equal rights for voting,  payment, etc.

But, showing off is another thing – inhuman and arrogant, most of the time.

 What about being a firewoman or female miner?

A profession like this needs more physical strength and mathematical thinking. Only a few ladies have these skills, and I have no wish to be that way. My belief is a woman should earn enough money to live on her own because it is inevitable for her to stay alone for different life reasons, but I do not agree with racism, sexism, etc. words that sound like male-hating. It’s natural for men to give it a shot and start to be female haters. Whatever goes around, comes back.

Women are humans and have the right to choose how they live. I post here with a clear head that many ladies in Muslim countries are treated like a possession. They do not need someone’s ownership and aren’t comfortable clothes to wear around. At some point, many males are like that too. Times changed, and now the alpha females treat their boyfriend as their pet, or toy, or make him do things he doesn’t want, ordering around and not speaking calmly.

Is that Feminism or using someone for personal interest?

Unfortunately, many men treat their women exactly like that. I do not mind the attitude “That is my girl,” and showing it off, but when it becomes an obsession it is time to have a serious talk. Right said women like to feel assured they’re the one for their man, and he is only theirs. Balance in everything is the key to happy living.

Should they be the epitome of every other woman?

Feminity is not in the clothes, makeup, or losing the self.  It is the feminine energy that attracts a man who indeed will care for his girl. The masculine energy will lead only if the woman allows her boyfriend to lead in his way without judgment. It is always easier to run away in someone’s else arms without learning to speak.  That, in the end, seems false because a woman is not one in her heart.

Womanhood starts with wearing a dress. It sounds crazy, but it is the truth, and I will tell you why from my observations.

Back in 2012, I broke my leg and was at my home, staying in depression, which made me look for a way out because I had suicidal thoughts.

I started to work online to have a goal because couldn’t stand up on my feet. Doing it eight hours daily brought me no success and became more depressed, and even starting to walk again did not bring me happiness.

I heard about personal development training with Dr. Menis Yousry. He is a great person, and many of my old attitude patterns broke. I released the emotional chains that were rooted in my childhood.

Since the two seminars I had, I started to wear a dress, understanding it makes me beautiful as I am – in my body and mind.

Putting on that type of clothes felt weird to me because I thought I was everything else but not a woman.  Looking back at that time, I put on a gothic dress for the first time on the last seminar’s day. I always loved Gothic Culture but never dare to wear clothes like these because my family criticized me for my outlook.

My boyfriends did not compliment me when I wore dresses and thought they were polite. Of course, that was in my head, because from a young age, I didn’t have the emotional support I longed for, feeling ugly in men’s eyes.

Today I built up my feminity’s confidence. The dresses gave me that feeling and helped to open the woman’s part of my mind, looking pretty. When I am not in a dress, I feel uncomfortable, wondering why women should wear the same clothes as men.

Both sexes are different in terms of physical appearance and thinking way. They should complement what each other lacks. Some people will say male clothes are more comfortable, but I do not agree because I love my dresses which are making me feel free to express my womanhood. They are comfortable clothes every female deserves to wear.

What about the Memory of Feminity’s Dresses?

It should not be forgotten. Women have the same power as men in a different way, but without each other, both parties can not survive. Looking at today’s families, I see tiredness to self-showing from the fear of losing someone or something. One of my friends said that nothing is eternal.

I want to believe in the eternity of Feminity and True Love, even if it sounds a bit like X-Files.  That is the difference between males and females – the beliefs.

Men lose it while pursuing an ideal, women do the same because they forget they should be the feminine energy that releases the masculinity.

The dress is only the accessory that creates the Feminiy in one woman.

A man, who loves feminine energy never will leave his chosen one. The same goes for a woman who truly loves the masculine energy of her boyfriend. 

Feminity contains qualities like keeping ground, self-care, setting healthy boundaries, self-respect, no judgment, the knowledge that nobody is perfect, and thoughts about how can the faults be transformed into positives, without changing the personality.

I give an example: when a man sleeps late, the woman goes mad, and it should not be like that. The girl may go out to do something she enjoys doing alone because everyone needs “me-time” or to surprise her partner. The same goes for the man.

Turning negative into positive is connected with channeling the energy into doing something useful: sport, cleaning, renovating, or going outside to visit art cafes, for example.  Being mad and quarreling is a big turn-off. But, if the man sleeps every day without doing anything, there is a need for serious talk without a high tone and listening from both sides about their point of view.

The big question is the acceptance of the partner’s flaws, or not. If they can not be accepted, the relationship shouldn’t start. In my first stages of talking with potential partners, I point out my flaws to not waste each other’s time.

After I had deep introspection, I knew what I can give to the other person and what not.

How to wake up Feminine Energy?

A start with a dress and red lipstick is a good idea that will open the mind to boldness and clears the head from unrealistic expectations in every life area. Women should accept they are emotional, romantic, and tender. Whatever they do, they will not have man’s logic and should act like women, without power struggles.

Kisses, makeup, smiles, flirting, making the man laugh, and listening when needed, are good starts for waking up the Feminity. Men should do the same for their ladies, but they should act as protective as they are, showing emotions a bit more in a balanced way, caring for their lady – it helps Masculinity.

Many people may argue with me, but I believe the Dress, Lipstick, and Nail color always will look better on women. They are their signature, in terms of Feminity that attracts and calms others, showing self-respect. The ladies should wear them proudly and not neglect themselves, transforming into a man they will never be.

Men should not act shy around every kind of woman if they want to be with her. I know the risk of rejection is big, but it’s always better to try and fail than never asking, staying stuck in fear.  Moving on is inevitable until life dies.

Thank you for your time.
Sources:

Feminity

Empowering Feminity

What Is Toxic Feminity?

Individual Legend Comes With Sacrifices

Individual Legend Sacrifices

Individual Legend Comes With Sacrifices

Is A Thing I Saw On My TV Screen After Reading Wikipedia

Inspired By Gertrud Bell’s Story

On Friday nights, I am rarely alone at home. Whenever that happens, I  watch movies based on historical figures because there are many people’s stories I want to know.

Otherwise, I spend all of my time with my daughter, watching animation on these weekends.

I had some time alone that Friday and watched the movie “The Desert’s Queen”. It was an exciting, sad, and inspirational film. I always respected women who use only their knowledge and power to keep going in life.

Powerful women usually sacrifice a lot to achieve their dreams.

That is not known when people look at their success and popularity.  The Individual legend I posted for on “Desert’s Wanderers Into Oases,” is challenging to understand. When people know what it is, they do not go after it because of their fears and lack of courage to fight.

I liked the “Desert’s Queen” movie because I think I am similar to Gertrude Bell. She had two lovers which showed they lack courage in being with her. Her love was true, deep, and consuming towards them, but her calling was bigger than life’s mission. I suppose many ladies today are like that too.

Most men and women lost their positions as ones because they misunderstood feminism, equality, and individual needs.

Or maybe true love is not meant for the individual legend?

Let me think again. Gertrude fell in love with adventures and new experiences. Of course, she loved similar men. In the end, these men killed themselves because they couldn’t fight for love because of cowardness or uncertain feelings they can be with a woman like her. I think that is a bit pitiful because if men love truly, they should fight for love. They should be warriors, protectors, etc. But maybe I am way too romantic in my thoughts, as Gertrude was.

Nowadays, not many men are courageous, bold, or adventurous. They resemble females more.

Most women have no clear ideas about what they want from a lover. They act like a hybrid between sexes. Power, one-night stands, and not a single idea about a committed relationship, or if there is a thought about it, there is no will to fight for love. It is too uncomfortable, and I wrote about it in “True Love’s Talk.”

Thrill or Stability is the 1-million question that people should ask.

Gertrude wanted them both, and I want them too, but I am unsure if that is possible. However, let’s go back to her life’s mission. 

When she succeeded not on the love front, she gave herself to the cause of peace with Arabian nations. That woman became my role model because she helped many people to see a different life’s light, and other humans. She gave hope for a better future and was remembered for it. Gertrude understood every person she met and Arabian people loved her because she knew their heart’s content – Dignity and Honor. I loved her words when she told the British politician he didn’t know the meaning of these qualities and Arabian desert life. The statement sure is more valid today than ever.

I also treasure these qualities today that I dare to say I have. Not many humans understand and have them because money-making is the life purpose of almost everyone. That is far from what humanity should look like, and a return to innocence is needed.

What is the point of my post today?

In short: Sacrifices are needed for an ordinary person to become a legend. They can be True Love, Individual Needs, Comfortable Life, and Time. I am unsure if many humans will give up these things in pursuing a dream.

True Love Sacrifies

Women are more prone to stick with their true love even if it is unrequited.  Sometimes they are in so much pain, that they start running away from everything and hiding from new males they meet.  On the other side, men accept that true love is not everlasting and it takes work. That makes them feel no better, and they start random dating to forget the past. Both sexes have no courage to face the broken heart for a long time and often leave the idea of true love out of their minds, distracted by work or other activities. Gertrude did that, and right said, me too. Maybe the self-reassurance will help on the way to self-growth. Or there may be still heroes that can help with healing when someone is going down.

Individual Needs Sacrifices

Nowadays, egoism is propagandized too much. People should put their needs first, even before their children’s. I am a bit old-school and I do not understand quite well why I should be more important than my child or someone else since in terms of birth, we all are born as equal humans. However, many people misunderstand setting healthy boundaries and being egotistical or narcissistic. I learn daily how to set boundaries. But my past friends and partners are not like me. Here comes the will to study that not everyone has.

Individual Needs can not be kept while someone is chasing their dream. The goal-achieving process needs to understand other’s people needs in the journey because humans can’t go on alone all the time. They will always meet someone else on the road.

Comfortable Life Sacrifices

I used to have a good life back in my hometown. Everything was perfectly organized. Many people envied me, and they still do. When I left my well-managed life back in the years, my parents did not speak to me for three years. I understood a lot of things then.

It was the first and last time I saw my father cries. He is a powerful man that doesn’t show many feelings. I understood pretty well I hurt people I hold dear by pursuing my dream of being an artistic person. Even so, I kept going. There is courage needed to continue moving on every time people fail someone or themselves.

I love comfortable life, but there is a thin line between giving something for granted and earning it on your own. When it comes to becoming a legend, following life’s dream can’t be comfortable. It may become a better situation with time, but in achieving the goal, there is no possibility for comfort.

Cutting ties with friends and family, becoming poor for a while, or staying uncomfortable single are good examples.

Time Sacrifices

The only asset people have, is their time – for love, living, or wasting. Everyone knows that the days of life are limited. The choice here is how people spend the years because they fly away. In Gertrude’s case, she was clear – adventures and writing before love. She accepted her love and wrote about it, but that woman never meant to use her time in a marriage. If she did, she had no time for it.

If I do not change my circumstances, I will be like her. If that is good or bad, I do not know. The point here is that many people are like me, wondering where and how it’s better to use their time. For myself, I try to challenge my time into the two things I love: dancing and writing. But, that doesn’t change the fact by choosing these two activities, I do not have time for dating, relaxing, etc. Gertrude became a success because she choose her travels, and they contradicted love’s life. She managed her time channeling it into the genuine wish she had – a better life for all.

In the end, successful people sacrifice more than they can afford to lose, but their will is more powerful than their narcissistic desires. That is the big difference between cowardly people that think only for their comfort, and those who think of everyone’s comfort, setting healthy boundaries.

In general, humans became worse because of the other’s success without knowing that the famous personalities are in genuine solitude.

After all, “Loneliness is Inspiration” to do great things that bring more to all humanity than a single personality.

But, can people make sacrifices for their True Love, Dreams, and Others?
Sources:

Gertrude Bell

“Queen of the Desert”

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