Behind The Confident Woman Lie Many Disappointments

Behind The Confident Woman Lie Many Disappointments

Behind The Confident Woman Lie Many Disappointments

is dedicated to smiling women.

Everyone likes confident women. But how many people ask how these ladies become the way they are?

Almost nobody. The male crowd roars they want a confident, positive, and smiling woman who gives comfort like a sofa or something. But giving peace to men costs many women many disappointments in their past. I won’t join the never-ending discussion of “men want that, women – this” or something because it seems sexist.

Maybe giving peace costs a  lot for males too, but my today’s confession is dedicated to the girls who try their best to please, without expectations, their lovers. That’s wrong because a healthy relationship is about giving and receiving feelings from both sides.

When a man says: “I do not want anyone to have expectations of me,”  it means he wants to be single and have fun around. Meanwhile, the girl who loves him becomes one deeply reserved plan taken for granted. It was a long time until I finally realized my heart’s truth regarding a similar situation. My thought was it was about unconditional love, which is something different.

There are a few questions about why women today became the confident way they are.

The confident woman became that way when she met disappointments that broke her heart or career. She felt like a failure but didn’t give up on depression for a long time because she understood that there is no other way out, except her moving on. No tears, screams, or pain will make a lady happy and loved. But if there is no man to love her, she should accept that and tries her best to love herself.

In their darkest hours, confident women were alone. Nobody called or tried to listen to their story.  Here comes the question regarding how the lady’s friends never asked how she was doing for a long time and the answer is simple: they did not care about her.

If someone doesn’t speak, message or call for a while, maybe it’s good to check on them. It should be like that, I suppose. But is it?

Every kind of relationship should be two-sided. When there is no second side, women go on their own, losing their trust. Then, they have nothing left outside of becoming confident in themselves since there is nobody else around to be proud of their accomplishments

I don’t mean people should do everything for others, but they, at least, should show care with their actions. Meanwhile, inaction is a choice to let go or slide off something or someone in a silent way. People call it “ghosting,” but it’s an escape. It’s a bit hypocritical but smiling at someone’s face and leaving them alone when they turn back is a hit nowadays.

Understanding the woman’s confidence through disappointments.

The most popular disappointment is unrequited love. The women start to think they do things wrong and are not enough for the objects of their affection. However, the situation is simpler: the men do not like the woman who likes them. It’s because they’re emotionally unavailable or have too many pretenses. After all, the dating world today, especially online, is too big and people do not want to commit since they can have various one-night stands to feed their egos and physical needs.

When a woman faces unrequited love many times, she becomes broken and expects every next male to say to her “I like you as a friend, but I do not love you,” “You’re not looking for me,”, “Let’s have some fun,” etc. In my case, my first question in mind is “What will be that time?” when I meet a new person.

Nothing bad with having fun, if that’s what women need, but until when?

Men are happy when there is no commitment and have one-night stands or the stupid thing, called “friends with benefits.” Maybe some women are feeling good about it, but deep inside they feel used. Indeed, both sides are using each other without understanding that at the moment. When a relationship starts with mutual use, it’s doomed in time.

That doesn’t build confidence in the woman, but rejecting a one-night stand before herself does. It’s easy for a woman to open her legs and gives whatever is needed, but the aftermath is a broken heart, because most females, even the coldest-looking ones, put feelings into the act.

That is the harsh truth and a big step toward the woman’s confidence.

Even so, some women do the mistake to have a one-night stand and think that means something to the man they were with. In my case once was so, but as time went by, I understood it was unlike and started to overstep my illusions about being with that man, looking at his actions. They showed me I was seriously wrong and should move on. That built a lot of confidence in me – through pain, I kept going to become a better and unused person, who has some level of self-care.

Another disappointment is that a woman stays in a hated job.

In Bulgaria, women don’t have many job choices. They should be government clerks, sellers, or housewives to fit the standards because not every woman can become a mannequin or pop-folk singer, based on her physical beauty and empty pockets to do aesthetic corrections.

Usually, the regular working ladies hate their job but stay there because someone has to pay the bills. On the other side, government work is stressful because turnovers, intrigues, and envy rule the office.

Right said, my feeling is like I am in a snake’s pit on my regular government clerk job, from 8 am – 5 pm. It’s good I applied for new job offers to work from home.

However, the lack of job choice and the inability to work something desired kills the confidence in every woman.  It takes a lot of time to become positive vibes again. Efforts are inhuman but it’s worth being inspired and looking for a unique life road.

Not many women are brave enough to risk everything in pursuing their dreams. For example, I know I should leave my low-paid job, but as a single mom, the bills await me.

Even so, the sacrifice of my personal life in the name of doing something I love as a part-time job, makes me calm and worthy. That is a huge step to a confident and smiling face.

Another woman’s disappointment is most men look at the outside beauty and are spoilt by their mothers.

They go from their mom’s arms into their wives and don’t take on many responsibilities. Most men are arrogant and do not care about anything else than their pleasure. The males want no expectations and have high standards since they’re a small number and feel hurt thinking they’re the only ones with a painful experience.  That disappoints the women and they start to do everything alone.

Once the ladies start to do things on their own, they separate from their husbands and go out with their children out of the family home and become independent.

In Bulgaria, every third of women is alone, and around 50 % of the women are single mothers, living with their parents or in poverty because the finances are tight. That builds confidence because there is no other option except to learn skills in a challenging way since men do not like women with children. Fighting for the child’s well-being should not be underrated. The woman’s spirit becomes different and certainly confident.

The biggest disappointment that builds the strongest confidence is hypocrisy.

Wounds from a one-sided romance, soul, and job failures heal with time, becoming great life lessons. But, the betrayal of close-to-heart people kills the trust forever. Many people use others for their interests. It’s a trend that will stay forever because it’s in human nature. There are not many kind people who do not use or lie to others. Parents, siblings, and friends are not the way they have been before. Many women find comfort in their soul-chosen families like a therapist, manicurist, coiffeur, kind stranger, or the only best friend from childhood who proved trustworthy.

The most powerful boost for a confident woman is the number of betrayals she had from friends, lovers, and family members.  When the trust is broken, the lady understands she has only herself to build up.  She fears deeply opening her heart. If there is not a patient and pure person to prove they can be trusted, the woman continues her life journey with confidence and a smile on her own.

That lady attracts many admirers and rejects them because she feels by her experience who is true or not. A confident woman will never be with someone, who wants no expectations from him, nor she will be a second mother of a man-child or physically used. She will never be with a person who betrayed her in any kind of relationship. It’s the classic saying: “Better alone than in bad company.”

Behind the smile of a confident woman lies a lot of emotional and physical pain created by the disappointments she received when she gave her everything to people who didn’t appreciate her. A lady like that can be healed and won with sincere interest and pure love, which are seldom.

Women’s Value Is Like Antique Silver

Women's Value is like antique silver

 Women’s Value Is Like Antique Silver

is the message every woman should remember.

International women’s day passed away, and the ladies felt special for one day.

Is that right?

My belief is women should feel consistently exceptional. They should be chosen daily by their male counterparts. Two years ago, my father told me I am special to him.  Until then, he showed that continuously with service acts and silent support, which I understood recently.

Women often think they lose their value with time.

That’s not true because like antique silver becomes more precious with years, the same goes for the women inside. It’s an undeniable fact youth and beauty fade away transforming into serenity, wisdom, and charm.

In middle age, I started to feel my body differently than before but that life course is inevitable. But I am proud of who I am today despite my past experiences. If I can do it, every female reader here is the same as me. Growing up in mind and age is a process that should be welcomed with open arms.

Today’s woman is like Shiva – an Indian god with many arms.

Balancing many responsibilities and not paying too much attention to family members is an undeniable fact that creates painful feelings. That’s the start of uncertainty in women’s values.

On the other side, women feel alone and unworthy of love because they’re tired of trying to balance their activities. Even the challenge to balance makes women fight daily with inspiration to find meaning in their lives.

Why do I compare the women with Antique Silver?

I love silver in every form since a young age – from jewelry to knives. My father was a collector. Today he invested everything in gold which I do not like much and I write for silver investments. That made me read a lot about precious metals and my research for every kind of them started while I write everything down. One of my passions is antique silver. It has a few specifications.

Over 100 years of age

 Antique silver costs a lot and metaphorically speaking, the ladies in their autumn age have many qualifications to be proud of. Unfortunately, they’re blinded by the media stereotypes and forget as women they have the same right to call themselves beautiful and take care of their outlook as younger girls. Not many people live hundred years but the number can interpret as a lot of experiences.

The older ladies have much more to offer to potential partners than the younger ones. That doesn’t connect with sex appeal or physical seduction but with the grace, compassion, and understanding of the male souls. Not many men look for that in a woman because they want visual beauty. But those who understand their female counterparts are the real men who ladies long for and are like endangered species.

Specific initials make the value of antique silver higher.

Older ladies have an individuality that is built with experiences, knowledge, and self-development in every life field.  Not many people dare to show their originality in clothing style or manners. What will people say is the worst question women should ask themselves. Those who are in their middle age are over society’s talks and norms, doing whatever they want because they can.

For example, I have my unique style and do not care to show off on social media and outside in the real world. My clothes and mind are Avangard, but it doesn’t matter to me what society thinks or speaks, because my life is one to be lived.

Accepting differences is a blessing for everyone. I don’t have time to lose after some of my family members, both blood and chosen, died last two years. So, specific initials that women have engraved in their hearts, souls, and appearances make their value higher for those who want to see and feel it.

Antique silver dates back to the year 1300.

Women sure are longer on the earth than the silver, and they have every reason to feel great, unique, and beautiful with their scars. After all, the wounds and their healing individual marks are the secret ingredients of mature feminity and true love’s energy. That makes the woman’s value higher than antique silver. For many years females did everything they can to become the best versions of themselves, inspiring their men to feel like the greatest and strongest warriors. It’s the power of a woman’s belief that makes a gentleman powerful, focused, brave, and proud, making his self-esteem higher.

But what about women’s self-esteem?

Ladies are fragile and beautiful like roses with thorns. They do the full set of aura, magnetism, and deep love every woman has toward her man and children.

So, dear women, do not think for even a second you’re not worthy of some man’s attention.

Looking at their scars, women understand themselves better and accept their dark sides fully. Self-esteem is not built only with red lipstick and dress, but also with shown character. It makes sense to cry, shout and laugh sincerely for every woman who experiences it.

Women have a specific smell like antique silver.

By aroma I mean a woman’s signature in walking, talking, clothing, smiling and accepting the situations as they are, taking care of the closest people. Female principles never should break even if it’s hurtful. It’s called dignity.

Women today are better to give themselves only to those who prove they want them for real with actions and genuine interest in their personality. I made many mistakes to chase men who didn’t look at my personality and me in general.  Today I go only after myself to become better in everything I do. If someone wants and dares to come on my way, he’s welcome. Maybe from around 3.97 billion men in the world, it’s possible to find the one who truly loves me for who I am and makes steps toward me despite everything. It’s called courage.

The woman’s specific smell is created by her beliefs, morals, life values, readiness to give love, and many other factors which make her authentic. But she should embrace herself with everything she’s got and stop crying for people who do not treasure her aroma. A woman who respects herself is better to wash away from disrespectful men’s smells.  Nobody deserves to be taken for granted and tied down to unhealthy emotional practices. But there is always space for one chance if people dare to want it.

The antique silver will never lose its shine and value. They become brighter with time and the same is for women.

Happy Late International Woman’s Day! Wear Red for Life’s Passions! Avangard and Antique style

You Deserve to wear it with everything you did for yourselves, your children, partners, fathers, cousins, friends, and colleagues.

Remember that and if needed, tattoo it. 🙂


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