Women Deserved Red Lipstick

August 4, 2022July 17, 2022 by Stranded

Putting A Smile Into Woman’s Eyes

I recently bought Vynil Red Lipstick, the color “Wicked.” Finally, I got the courage to put on Red Lipstick in my middle age.

My life has changed. After learning how to wear the Red dress, the time to learn to wear red lipstick was inevitable. Change is the painful road to personal growth and opening the closed mind’s eyes. One thing is undeniable – the change is always for good even people understand that later.

Since my newest lipstick is fabulous, I want to dig deep into Why the Red Lipstick is Freedom.

People live in challenging times, especially in dating and relationships. Everyone wants to be interesting and attract the attention of the other sex in one way or another. That is normal. But, there is a thin line between being eccentric just because and a lifestyle built with time, usually through sadness, and pain that tears the heart inside out, transforming the soul into pure love light.

Being eccentric just because is saving the day a few times, but in the long-term, it does not work out because the false image can not hide for too long.

On the other side, showing uniqueness daily, even fanatically unconventional, has its pros. Not many people go after the eccentric of someone that is so damn unconventional because it is intimidating.

Uniqueness requires sacrifices, and not many people want to walk alone in life’s ocean filled with jellyfishes that stick and burn together.

As every reader knows, I am a proud loner. Some call me cold, some arrogant, and I do not even care anymore because the best and the worst times of my life I met alone, so I know things or two about solitude.

But, let’s go back to the main question now. I became courageous after having many breakups in my personal life, and I failed 100 times in my professional path. Yes, these many times, I fell to win the Writing competitions I participated in. But now, I have material for a Poetry book.

So, I never left my dream to be a writer in the trashbin of daily routine and mundane problems with other personalities.

The red lipstick, for me, gives a newfangled meaning to life. Today, after too much work on my self-awareness, inside world, and outside appearance, I can use my mouth to tell and defend my truth.

In the past, I avoided conflicts and my needs. But, thanks to my newly found inner growth after the challenging life cycle last few years, I am free to go and speak my mind out without worrying about how my words will interpret.

If the people care about me, they will read between the lines. If not, they will stay shocked and feel insulted.

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Now, what do women learn from wearing Vinyl Red and Wicked Lipstick?

That is my opinion regarding online dating, and I do not fear telling it straight to support many other single women like me to look pitiful and desperate in the eyes of the men who look only for fun, fraud, and reserve plans online.

Now, after being in many unhealthy relationships because I allowed it for various reasons – under society’s or loneliness’ pressures, I stand up and speak up my opinion. I do not want my daughter to live like a shadow in man’s or society’s opinions and pressures.

By the way, I do not hate men – I love them all. Lovemaking, flirting, and imagining how beautiful would be in reality in the numerous online romance are a tender way to daydream and spend time but does nothing else.

All the men I have been with and met daily are good, but I am not their woman, even if they were my men sometimes in life and in my mind. Maybe I will be someone’s woman in the future but not today. The thing about online dating men is they are in a relationship and often use online dating to have a reserve plan if something happens.

I want to support women in my position in the dating market and help them open their mouths for themselves.

What to know about online romance scammers that use dating apps?

There are two main types of romance scammers I have met until now.

The first one is the Flirty and passionate cryptocurrencies handsome guy with dogs.

These guys are mostly on Instagram, LinkedIn, or Writing platforms. It was funny when these men saw my Instagram with pictures of Dubai and started writing to me because maybe I looked rich. They say they are interested in the woman, and send flirty emojis.

From time to time share about the cryptocurrency market or ask straight to invest, and use their charm, backed up by dog owning to make the woman go crazy in love. They promise they will take financial care of her, teaching her to invest, but do not ask for pictures or personal details outside saving habits. If the woman is though, they disappear in up to 1 month saying there is a dead family person or the market crashed.

They are sweet, but these boys love their job too much and never keep their promises to online calls.

When it comes to real-life meetings, the women either should wait to be surprised or invited when things are under control from the man’s side.
Communication with cryptocurrencies guys is inspiring and creates the illusion the man is successful and will take care of his woman in every aspect. Sometimes they promise they arrange everything and send money to the woman to go to them in their country. Usually, these guys are from Europe in most cases in my communication, at least.

Right said these guys are good ones with too much reality in their words. These boys are desperate for money in most cases, using lies that they are millionaires that drive expensive cars and own beautiful houses. I do not blame them since everyone wants to live a comfortable lifestyle.
The dogs here play a huge role because, in Psychology, men that love dogs are considered great husbands who truly love their wives and children.

The second type of romance scammer is Family-oriented contractors with a kid that is in a boarding school.

These guys are everywhere on social media. They want the Gmail or Hangouts ID, start to ask personal questions, and use the mother love and compassion of women for their families. They are usually from the USA or Asian countries. These men say they are on working contracts between one and three years. If the woman wants to meet them in reality, usually they have no place to meet her outside the office apartment.

These men usually speak about their late wives and how they are separated from their children because they have a contract in the Oil or Real Estate industry. They use fake pictures of houses, older men, and children between 6 and 17 years.
They bring up a sad story of family loss. Usually, the woman they speak to reminds them of the late wife, or it is the first to communicate openly with after the death of the loved one.

When on Instagram, these guys follow at least 3000 other women.

On the Writing platforms, they do not have a single published post or reading list. That type of guy uses pictures of older, well-kept males. That way, they create the illusion of high activity in every field.

These men use romantic words, flower pictures, and clips to make the woman fall for them. They also insist she sends them her photos and if she has a child – her child too. On the second day of communication, they say they love the woman, and on the third, they want to marry her. These men start speaking about the woman’s child like it is their own.

They show deep care about the daily routine of the woman they flirt with and insist she speak to them daily. When these scammers think they have the woman’s trust, they want Amazon Gift Certificate or Money for something else.

The contractors use flirty, clingy, obsessive, controlling behavior because many women indeed like that still. Those men never call the woman because they have either poor connection or if they make a video call is blurry, or mouth movement is not matching. They rarely disappear on their own because they’re persistent, and when exposed, the men play like they are the hurt ones, making the women feel guilty. Then they start anew.

So, both types of men are into the women for their money, or sometimes they want to create an illusion that they have a relationship. It is sad because everyone deserves to feel loved, but today’s dating market is not nurturing sincere relationships.
In most cases, men and women online go only for the flirt, free online pictures, and masturbation, if not for the fraud.

What mean wearing the Red Lipstick again?

Speak the truth before it’s too late without going into useless communication that hurts at the end of it. Women are more emotional and prone to create imaginary love. They should be careful how they communicate and follow their logic in the talk with men. There should be no fear in stating the facts, needs, and values.

Men, on the other side, are more logical and using-oriented because they love to be physical without much effort, but that will lead to happiness in the short term. At a certain age, that will not be enough anymore. One of my old flames told me: “Men are animals when it comes to sex.” Maybe they do not choose when they want it. I am not sure.

But, you know what?

Everyone wants to be physical with a person that fits in more than one chemistry level.

The red lipstick is not a scandal or a sign of the femme fatale. Women dare to speak their minds as it is without worrying about their potential man’s opinion or society’s norms. That is the key for a woman to look sexy in men’s eyes. Her head is in the right place, not somewhere else, if you know what I mean.

Boldness in actions from men is always a good idea. But, women should give accurate signs of interest and read between the silent lines of men’s eyes.

In the end, who doesn’t love red lipstick’s traces on the body and clothes? 🙂

Heart’s memories

November 24, 2022July 3, 2022 by Stranded

Heart’s memories

Calm sadness to overcome it

July came and with it the second half of the year. I achieved many things, but not even one of these I wanted to make happen this year.

Time is ticking away, and better days will come to me. People start to dig into their situation when the first six months pass.

Summer is the time to love and meet new people, or that is what people say. For me, Summer is equilibrium.

First days of July, I cut ties with four men in my life. For a long time, I stood in negative feelings spirals, and finally, I got the courage to break them free. There is sadness and calmness in my heart and memories that warm my heart when I feel cold.

When people want something new, they should burn the old bridges. Right?

The person’s heart needs to remember only the good because when the negative emotions are bottled inside, that is not the key to moving forward.

But what about the negativity?

It stops people from living. I cleared my emotional luggage with the four men I held on to dear for a long time.

After releasing them in my heart and mind after rational conversations with them, I feel free, and my heart is lighter. I remember only the warmth they all gave me when we were together for years platonically, physically, and daily.

It was not easy for me to let them go, but I stood up on my two feet and decided it was time because my time was flying to stay where I was unwanted.

These men I can connect to my love life periods – spring, summer, autumn, and winter.

The spring.

He was the greatest physical spark I had. We started to write letters on paper when we were teenagers. When we met, it was an enormous attraction we both did not understand and made go further. I suppose he was my soulmate, but we parted ways. It was a romantic breeze that I did not accept, and he did not start anything. Over the years, we met a few times – same spark every time, only different ages.

Last night, we had a two-hour phone call and made clear we will not try to be together ever again. He said we’re too different in our living styles, and there is no point in trying. Maybe we missed our time. Love is abstract when it comes to year-gap meetings. I felt calm, sad, and warm. I had the chance to have something like that in my life. It is a good memory I treasure.

The Summer.

I met him this year. We were together online for two months. I ended up because he is not at his age to commit or accept someone else in his life. His work is his lover. That is why everything between us was hot until the end. Love affirmations, deep talks, and feelings, but from the beginning, I knew we will not last long. He is too ambitious and forgets what having a partner outside the business is.

As a successful and hard-working man, he will always choose his job. Something I maybe can’t relate to. He even wanted me to become his business student to teach me how to invest. I did not want to learn investing at the moment, and I stated my opinion which turned him off.
And with his sexy outlook, many beautiful women will be around him since he falls in love fast.

So, I tried for the last two weeks to contact him to find out he ghosted me. He is with the next girl. I cut off with a painful chest this summertime romance, but I have warm feelings for the connection we built. He is an incredible example of a man that started from zero and became successful in his work. It was a good experience for me to be around that type of guy to understand better how his mind works.

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The Autumn.

I am sad for that boy because he was sincere but younger by many years than me – in his springtime. I was a believer before the age in love feelings do not matter, but I am not sure about that anymore.

We started to speak one month ago. It was funny, flirty, and innocent. I enjoyed conversations with him as I would enjoy speaking with a younger brother. Almost every day, he looked for me to talk to. He was bored at first, then interested and hinted he wanted something more of our texting. His youthful way of courting gave me a lot of joy, but I kept my ground as a mature woman. I do not want to ruin his life. Since I saw him as a sibling, I gave my full support and shared my thoughts. We were similar and with the same philosophies for life at some points. But, when he started to speak about the eventual future together in another country, I told him no.

As a single mom, I need to organize many things before going somewhere and starting anew. I should manage time, activities, work, school, and grocery shopping. For that, I need a stable partner that manages his life, not a son I teach him how to handle different and complicated situations in complex living circumstances. I may be am not right, but my feelings said no. He was heartbroken after I rejected him.

But, it was for his better life – he will find a great girl and have a family.

Everyone deserves true love and admiration in a heartfelt way.

The Winter.

That one was my summer lover once – a younger person, a perfect companion, and higher understanding. He is the example of the man all women want – a caring, hard-working, family-oriented, lovemaking partner that helps with home chores. He prefers to stay single and use the women for his fun, though, waiting for “The Perfect One”. It may happen, or it may not in his lifetime. But he has every right and ability to live that way because he always will be desired by many women.

Last year, we were together for four months, and I couldn’t forget him eight months after our breakup. Everything back then was deep, stable, sensual, and almost perfect, except he did not know how to love another person. He became my feelings for winter because, after him, I turned to IceCube in my heart which is closed now. With him, my emotional winter came until I cut ties with him. Maybe my iced bottled heart will melt.

He and I met online, and we were lonely. That made us closer and living in the delusion we have feelings toward each other. Indeed, I had them, and he only looked for fun. The amusing thing was I knew it all along. Even so, I used to believe that love conquers everything. Now I know it is not like that, and I am self-aware. We talked daily for hours and built a strong, unbreakable bond I always wanted to have. And I still do, but my heart is currently closed, and no hero will come and open it because I am in a different age of romance.

I tried to keep the connection one-sided for a very long time, and the reply I got from the winter guy was “he is busy” flirting with the next woman. He used me for my pictures and maybe used them for free porn or something. Men like him usually look for free sex online. I finally found the courage in July to cut him off. My heart is not painful anymore. I am grateful I had the opportunity to feel love like that. It proved I am right to think true love is usually unrequited.

I am not sure why younger men are attracted to me. Maybe it is my energy or because I care about my outlook. It doesn’t matter anymore because I keep taking care of my appearance. Women are beautiful at all ages. They should care for themselves because no one else will.

After summarizing in my head my negative spirals, I can appoint the pros and cons of cutting ties for the best heart’s memories.

PROS: Self-Awareness, Self-Esteem, Self-Growth, Personal Development, Maturity, Self-Love, Knowing People Better, Understanding What The Heart Wants, Feeling Enlightened, Calmness, Moving On, Gratefulness, Good Memories, and Living to Fullest.

CONS: Pain, Sadness, Closed Heart, Broken In Pieces, Loneliness, Trust Issues, Fear of Rejection, Indecision, Running Away From Living, Digging Into The Routine, and Betrayal.

These feelings make human life whole and worth living in terms of rebuilding and becoming a better version of oneself. Whatever happens, people should keep going because life is the only one to waste time in negativity.