Accepting The Situations As They Are

Accepting the situations as they are

Accepting The Situations As They Are


A Must For Keep Going Forward.

People face many situations in life. Some of them are painful, others misunderstood, but there is one thing for sure – they happen, and the reaction toward them brings consequences.

Whatever happened, it could not change. The only way out is moving forward through the pain, sorrow, uncertainty, and broken heart. Every one of these challenges leads to a better life and more wisdom.

Recently, I had another destabilized relationship with an important person. It was funny how the conflict started from zero and the misunderstanding from both sides. For me is the norm to call it quits when someone pushes my buttons by choice. That’s why I am a loner. Respect should be shown in everything people do. Mutual understanding is a must in every type of relationship. Pointing out faults or weaknesses doesn’t work for anyone.

However, the situations should be accepted as they are by the involved humans. People rarely are on the same page in their relationships or life crossroads. It’s seldom for both parties to walk by each other side until the end of time.

I have that dream and know it’s a mirage because Nobody loves no one is today’s life motto.

In general, situations separate into edifying, surviving, and untested. The three types enrich life in different ways. These situations are part of daily routines, relationship patterns, and self-consciousness.

Edifying situations are accepted as they are, healing the heart

That type of situation is connected with heartbroken experiences from the loss of every kind of love and betrayal. In short, everything that strokes the heart, and it doesn’t matter how small the thing is, when there is heartache, there is edifying.

For example, when a friend turns in romantic interest or a person moves out of the parent’s or ex-lover’s house, that is an enlightening experience that is painful and sorrowful at its beginning. Time becomes a basis to become a wise person who finds the mind’s peace after the whirlwind of emotions.

I have experienced edifying situations many times in my love life, but today I realized every past disappointment, present expectation, and future belief in a person. It was challenging for my emotions today’s morning, but now I can say everyone is free to go. Tears were falling from my eyes, but every drop gave me light, transparency, and a reason to smile because of my fond heart’s memories that no one can steal from me.

Sadly, I’m unlucky in love, but maybe at that current moment is not my thing to have a lover. Starting now, I have no will or time to date or woo someone, because many projects await me. So, I do what I have to do without distractions. If someone is brave and in love with me, we will enter each other’s worlds.

Surviving situations should be accepted as they are, giving the best professional sessions

Most people want to succeed in life, but that happens with many failures on the career path. An empty pocket is the best teacher of ambition. Living in poverty or having a low-paid job gives great motivation, but often unhealthy.

Ambitions can lead to stepping over people, using them for personal interest, and forgetting what humanity is. It’s good to have a reminder or two that there should be a proper and respectful attitude toward everyone.

My example of careers can give a good idea of what I am writing.

When I was in Multi Level Marketing, I failed many times to attract new associates and clients. These failures taught me many skills I use today in advising interested people, having unplanned consultations, and earning some money, which brings food to my table. One of my future goals is to be a life coach, and I will succeed because it comes naturally to me.

Other types of failure I got were my 100 rejections from Poetry Competitions but I wrote a book, becoming a showman of my little circus. Thanks to these rejections, I got the motivation to write more and become a perfect poet and blogger in my eyes, who inspires others to succeed.

Untested situations should be accepted as they are, creating a new experience and building courage.

That type of situation needs an open mind, bravery, and unlistening to people’s opinions. Not many humans can go on without gossiping and in solitude. The untested situations are the most dangerous and eye-opening ones. The takers want to go out of their comfort zone. Diving into the unknown is not everyone’s taste. But it’s mine, and that makes me authentic.

What About You?

That weekend, I joined the African dance course without having a slight idea what it was about. I felt energized from that experience. Feeling people’s positive energy is something I craved for a long time and experienced this training with every fiber of my body. It was amazing and I felt like I danced that for a long time, but the instructors were the best I know so far.

The situation was untested and highly intimidating because I do not like to have any imperfect steps, but if my choice was to not go on that course, I would never know what it’s like to be there. After the two classes, I was happy, and my child was too. We did something enjoyable together and spent quality time outside the ordinary settings. I call that living, and my child – childhood.

Many people do not like to test new things because they have fears of something, but as the old saying goes: “It’s better to try than die without doing it” is eternally valid.

Fears do not save when people are on their deathbeds, but memories of something unusual done create motivation to fight the sickness and live, or to be grateful for what happened, without regrets.

I highly encourage going into untested situations and doing it all the time. It gives me adrenaline, happy moments, and unforgettable experiences, having no regrets about living my life. My example to my child, and other people who know me, should be like that.

I may seem eccentric, unusual, and an outsider, but the truth is simple: I live my life to its fullest, because my tomorrow may never come.

What about you?

My today’s confession ends today. Thank you for reading, and  I hope I made you think.

Accepting Untested Situations as They are





The Vibrator Of Inhuman Treatment

Inhuman Treatment

The Vibrator Of Inhuman Treatment


Hidden in informal stalking.

Today I am in a bad mood. Since there is no one around physically to listen to me, I will write it down. Usually, people are busy when I need them, and for those, who are not, my preference is to spare their minds peace.

I have always dreamed of someone to read between my silence and harsh words. But, at the same time, I keep them away because of my habit to go through everything alone. It’s a challenge for me to learn how to receive support.

Until today, I haven’t met the hero who breaks my silence walls, so I play my writing superhuman. And I will not beg for attention.

Tonight while I drink my whiskey, thinking about two topics of my recent and disappointing experience: The Vibrator before Lover and The Inhuman Treatment At The Office. To read, or not is up to the readers. I am fed up with fulfilling others’ expectations of me in writing, life, etc., and my current blogger’s reputation is foggy, and it has been a long road.

The Vibrator Before Lover

It’s been a while since I have written about why women deserved red lipstick. My surprise was to find out my post was loved by the male auditory, and the women didn’t understand what I wrote.

I have many male friends because they do not see me as anything more than a buddy. That has been my life’s trend for fifteen years and is the norm for me. A friend of mine told me when I had my breakup last year, he hopes that I was feeling good with a one-night stand or however I satisfy my physical needs. His exact words were: The original is better than the vibrator,” but for a year I haven’t found an original.

I am not good with one-night stands because for someone to go inside my body, he should captivate my brain.

I am uncertain what is wrong with males today, but those I met last year, were boys, who run away from responsibility. The cult Supernatural Rowena’s quote: “Hello Boys!” fits perfectly for my romantic experience recently.

The other group of males I met, was masculine and flirty, living on their own for so long that they forgot how to courtship women.

Or should I say a woman like me?

Sometimes I feel like cursed because it’s an unwritten rule that intelligent women are not loved by men. On the other side,  the beautiful and stupid girls are followed non-stop.

Even if I sound discouraged, and probably males will think I miss the sexual experience, I dare to say men have no taste in female lovers nowadays.

They “have no time,” look for “someone younger and beautiful,” or “have no will to care for other’s drama, including their woman.” The men’s standards are high, but the return receipt is not seen in its true colors.

Or maybe I am wrong? I hope so.

The men long for a real woman – feminine, smart, well-groomed, caring, emotional, etc., but when they meet one, they run away from rejection fear, or because she is older, and has a child. It seems I am not their woman, so my wish to these males is to find the right one for them.

 I accepted my reality as a single mom, doing my best for me and my daughter to live better.

The thoughts above are my reasons why I will choose my vibrator until a man dares to flirt with me, accepting me as I am with my child. There is no hope, for now, to meet someone boldly doing that, but it’s not the most important thing in my small world.

People say: “No risk, no Gain,” and maybe they’re right. That is in every life field, including relationships.

The Inhuman Treatment in Office.

I am unsure how is in other countries, but in mine, the employees hired by the government should be people-pleasers and liars who backstab their colleagues in the name of money. They succeed and earn big for that, giving the inhuman treatment in the office, and a new vanity upgrade.

The treatment is usually gossiping or saying things everyone wants to hear. People who are not a part of the crowd are uncomfortable and treated badly.

However, I want to share my experience with that.

Last week, my child was sick and got better on the third day of homestay.  I posted on Facebook a picture of us without a purpose for anything. Coming back to work on Monday, I have been blamed for my homestay being illegal. I was said that people from higher places will come to check my list for missing work.

Officially, I have documents to prove my stay at home. My boss told me I need to write an apology because I posted on my Facebook public profile pictures while I haven’t been at work. It was a paradoxical situation.

I wrote my opinion regarding the matter, using as a basis the text of the European Convention on Human Rights. I won the debate, but the problem is about human principles and morals.

It’s a proven fact that when bosses want to fire an employee, they use every possible insult to do so. I am still at work but got a lawyer because I will defend my human rights one way or another.

Until today, the question of my Facebook profile is still discussed, which is funny. It proves people are bored and lazy to work. They do not do anything else outside checking social media. It wasn’t an unexpected situation because I always speak my truth which is not good to hear.

But, I am surprised by how low can my colleagues and people, in general, go. Every time I face a situation like that in my professional or personal life is an insult.

Sadly, the inhuman treatment at the office is still happening. I am ashamed to call myself a human sometimes. It would be better if I was a cat.

In many countries, people have the choice to leave their unfulfilling jobs, but in Bulgaria is not like that, or at least for me at the moment, because the child needs financial security. However, I keep trying to do my best, leave that sad, boring job, and soar. I know it will take time, but my power is my will, and never give up before the challenges. The first step is always the hardest.

So, What is the commonality between the Vibrator and The informal Treatment?

Both insult human personalities and make people become hermits. It’s the way the world spins around, and until minds don’t change, it will be like that.

The rejection from a potential love interest and the office’s inhuman treatment are alike in terms they shatter the human heart. It takes time to rebuild, but it’s better for people to take months or years to reconstruct themselves from the challenges than staying in a depression hole, filled with darkness, apathy, and fears. Challenges are the factors that build confidence and a continuous fighting spirit.

Ending up alone, single, or jobless is not scary, but sitting in heart’s ruins without hope’s light is.

Another common trait between Vibrator and the Informal Office’s treatment is the lack of originals – men and leaders who inspire others. Probably, from a male’s point of view, the same goes for women. The truth is simple: partners should give equal attention, communication, and love to each other, and the employees should receive what they work for at the office.

That is for regular daily work hours jobs. When it comes to some careers,  leadership receives another meaning, and it consists of many skills, human attitudes, and sincere interest toward the team members. Building a strong and healthy team happens with human treatment. Someday I will dig into that too since I live in my blog. 🙂

“Freedom, Sancho, is one of the most precious gifts that heaven has bestowed upon men; no treasures that the earth holds buried or the sea conceals can compare with it” is my favorite quote from “Don Quixote” book I love and use as my life pattern.

Thank you for reading, and remember that even if that is only me, I believe in all my readers because I have been in situations when no one believed in me.

P.S – I will do choreography on that song soon.

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