In Memory Of Feminity’s Dresses

The Memory Of Feminity's Dresses And Finding It

In Memory Of Feminity’s Dresses

Because

It’s somewhere out of that world and should be found again.

Today is Saturday-  the first day of the weekend is usually spent at the MALL, Beach, or somewhere out to show off for the families. A long time ago, I also believed that is an excellent way to spend time together. I do not think like that anymore because my truth’s eyes look different.

I see women that look not like one, even with the best branded or comfortable clothes, and men that continue showing off with their money. The ladies have no feminity. The people call themselves a family, without even looking like one.

How do I dare to say that without knowing what is in their heads and memory?

I state the facts because I work with many clients and spend my time alone observing humans. When I was in my delusionally happy relationship, I wore comfortable clothes, believing they were the right for me. I did not dare to wear a red dress or lipstick.

Why Should I?

My former man did not care for my outlook. Sadly, males forget their women are feminine energies that need balance and be taken care of. Every lady needs respect, a flirt, smile, love, and compliments. It doesn’t matter if she looks strong

I do not hate or blame men because they’re at fault exactly as much as women. Both parties allowed themselves to forget their sex and family responsibilities. Partners look as good as they treat each other. If they share their obligations, they both are happy and healthy. If not – everyone knows how it looks.

That is what I see: neglected women and overconfident men. It’s ugly, and I know it. My post today is to look for the Feminity between the ashes of daily routines and unhealed inner feelings of discontent, forgetting human equality.

Should I blame the Comfortable feeling or not for the Feminity’s lack?

A beautiful dress will not change the woman’s feelings. It is more like a reminder to remember women should not go too far, in feminism’s terms. I agree all sexes need equal rights for voting,  payment, etc.

But, showing off is another thing – inhuman and arrogant, most of the time.

 What about being a firewoman or female miner?

A profession like this needs more physical strength and mathematical thinking. Only a few ladies have these skills, and I have no wish to be that way. My belief is a woman should earn enough money to live on her own because it is inevitable for her to stay alone for different life reasons, but I do not agree with racism, sexism, etc. words that sound like male-hating. It’s natural for men to give it a shot and start to be female haters. Whatever goes around, comes back.

Women are humans and have the right to choose how they live. I post here with a clear head that many ladies in Muslim countries are treated like a possession. They do not need someone’s ownership and aren’t comfortable clothes to wear around. At some point, many males are like that too. Times changed, and now the alpha females treat their boyfriend as their pet, or toy, or make him do things he doesn’t want, ordering around and not speaking calmly.

Is that Feminism or using someone for personal interest?

Unfortunately, many men treat their women exactly like that. I do not mind the attitude “That is my girl,” and showing it off, but when it becomes an obsession it is time to have a serious talk. Right said women like to feel assured they’re the one for their man, and he is only theirs. Balance in everything is the key to happy living.

Should they be the epitome of every other woman?

Feminity is not in the clothes, makeup, or losing the self.  It is the feminine energy that attracts a man who indeed will care for his girl. The masculine energy will lead only if the woman allows her boyfriend to lead in his way without judgment. It is always easier to run away in someone’s else arms without learning to speak.  That, in the end, seems false because a woman is not one in her heart.

Womanhood starts with wearing a dress. It sounds crazy, but it is the truth, and I will tell you why from my observations.

Back in 2012, I broke my leg and was at my home, staying in depression, which made me look for a way out because I had suicidal thoughts.

I started to work online to have a goal because couldn’t stand up on my feet. Doing it eight hours daily brought me no success and became more depressed, and even starting to walk again did not bring me happiness.

I heard about personal development training with Dr. Menis Yousry. He is a great person, and many of my old attitude patterns broke. I released the emotional chains that were rooted in my childhood.

Since the two seminars I had, I started to wear a dress, understanding it makes me beautiful as I am – in my body and mind.

Putting on that type of clothes felt weird to me because I thought I was everything else but not a woman.  Looking back at that time, I put on a gothic dress for the first time on the last seminar’s day. I always loved Gothic Culture but never dare to wear clothes like these because my family criticized me for my outlook.

My boyfriends did not compliment me when I wore dresses and thought they were polite. Of course, that was in my head, because from a young age, I didn’t have the emotional support I longed for, feeling ugly in men’s eyes.

Today I built up my feminity’s confidence. The dresses gave me that feeling and helped to open the woman’s part of my mind, looking pretty. When I am not in a dress, I feel uncomfortable, wondering why women should wear the same clothes as men.

Both sexes are different in terms of physical appearance and thinking way. They should complement what each other lacks. Some people will say male clothes are more comfortable, but I do not agree because I love my dresses which are making me feel free to express my womanhood. They are comfortable clothes every female deserves to wear.

What about the Memory of Feminity’s Dresses?

It should not be forgotten. Women have the same power as men in a different way, but without each other, both parties can not survive. Looking at today’s families, I see tiredness to self-showing from the fear of losing someone or something. One of my friends said that nothing is eternal.

I want to believe in the eternity of Feminity and True Love, even if it sounds a bit like X-Files.  That is the difference between males and females – the beliefs.

Men lose it while pursuing an ideal, women do the same because they forget they should be the feminine energy that releases the masculinity.

The dress is only the accessory that creates the Feminiy in one woman.

A man, who loves feminine energy never will leave his chosen one. The same goes for a woman who truly loves the masculine energy of her boyfriend. 

Feminity contains qualities like keeping ground, self-care, setting healthy boundaries, self-respect, no judgment, the knowledge that nobody is perfect, and thoughts about how can the faults be transformed into positives, without changing the personality.

I give an example: when a man sleeps late, the woman goes mad, and it should not be like that. The girl may go out to do something she enjoys doing alone because everyone needs “me-time” or to surprise her partner. The same goes for the man.

Turning negative into positive is connected with channeling the energy into doing something useful: sport, cleaning, renovating, or going outside to visit art cafes, for example.  Being mad and quarreling is a big turn-off. But, if the man sleeps every day without doing anything, there is a need for serious talk without a high tone and listening from both sides about their point of view.

The big question is the acceptance of the partner’s flaws, or not. If they can not be accepted, the relationship shouldn’t start. In my first stages of talking with potential partners, I point out my flaws to not waste each other’s time.

After I had deep introspection, I knew what I can give to the other person and what not.

How to wake up Feminine Energy?

A start with a dress and red lipstick is a good idea that will open the mind to boldness and clears the head from unrealistic expectations in every life area. Women should accept they are emotional, romantic, and tender. Whatever they do, they will not have man’s logic and should act like women, without power struggles.

Kisses, makeup, smiles, flirting, making the man laugh, and listening when needed, are good starts for waking up the Feminity. Men should do the same for their ladies, but they should act as protective as they are, showing emotions a bit more in a balanced way, caring for their lady – it helps Masculinity.

Many people may argue with me, but I believe the Dress, Lipstick, and Nail color always will look better on women. They are their signature, in terms of Feminity that attracts and calms others, showing self-respect. The ladies should wear them proudly and not neglect themselves, transforming into a man they will never be.

Men should not act shy around every kind of woman if they want to be with her. I know the risk of rejection is big, but it’s always better to try and fail than never asking, staying stuck in fear.  Moving on is inevitable until life dies.

Thank you for your time.
Sources:

Feminity

Empowering Feminity

What Is Toxic Feminity?

Bad Habits Do Not Make People Second-Rate

No Second-Rate People

Bad Habits Do Not Make People Second-Rate

And They Do Better

As a fighter for my justice and defending humans that are not sheep, I stand up once again. That time, for the people with bad habits. We all know someone who is a thief, an alcoholic, a drug dependent, a mafia member, a prisoner, or even a killer.

Usually, humans play dead or are blind, when they hear about life’s grey side in the towns, clubs, human traffic, etc.

In general, society is old-fashioned and claims people out of the ordinary life’s course in its view. I say without a doubt that people living on the dark side are no less perfect than those, who spend their lives on the bright life’s side.

That may sound crazy but I am a devotee of the good side of all people. I know that someone who decides to stay sober, lives an ordinary life after prison, or is in a mafia situation, is also a human who needs respect. I always look behind the reasons for the human attitude and dig so deep that I can see the most unbelievable proof that a person is good despite the things done in his past.

Everything has a reason, and when it comes to humans, I stick to that they make mistakes, learn from them, and become better persons.

I say that because I have been close to people with drug and alcohol dependence and also have worked with people from the mafia, or with suicidal thoughts. As a psychological consultant for group therapy a few years ago, I know some things because some of my closest-to-heart people were also dependent on their bad habits.

That doesn’t make them less human or second-rate people.

If a chance is given for better life, job, or relationship, those involved in the dark side of life may go to great lengths, proving they deserve the best too. The criminal minds are sharper and more schematic or organized than regular people’s brains, which are learned from a book. The criminals only act and practice. They have their reasons that indeed may be more human than the known.

Some people steal or sell drugs to feed their families. It is not appropriate in the eyes of society, but still, if people understand the reasons, they see there is a logical explanation. I am not saying all should do bad things, but they are part of the personality.

If people are sincere with themselves, they will see that they also have bad habits, but probably not enough motivation to do second-rate deeds.

The truth I and everyone know is that all need the motivation to do something, is it not?

Let’s say that the reasons for a concrete behavior started from a young age. Many persons I have met told me that they were beaten at home or verbally abused. They changed from good schoolers to the worst because of their grades.

Is it that education or lack of elementary respect toward a decent human being?

In my opinion, children need to be praised for almost everything they do. Of course, I do not support inappropriate behavior, but there should always be balance.

The equilibrium can be built very well with different methods. Relationships between parents, and children, and their actions may stabilize with talks or psychological consultation if needed.

That would make bad habits less showing.

Most people do whatever to be seen by their closest people, thinking that will bring the attention of a concrete person toward themselves. That may be a father, mother, sibling, or lover’s figure. The problem can be solved before joining criminal life with a simple conversation.

The main reason for bad habits usually is the lack of love at home from parents or siblings. They may put too many responsibilities on the children, robbing them of their only one childhood.

To escape the feeling of dissatisfaction, many humans take a different way to distract themselves from the reality they do not like.

These ways may be drugs, alcohol, or other activity that is claimed as bad. It is easy to judge people and their actions without thinking about their situation. It is like showing your middle finger to attract attention from the police or other people to be noticed. That usually works for a short period, but not for a long-term situation.

The same can be said for going deep into the bad habits, leading to being in places that challenge, or creating illusions you are on the right path. All this is seen as second-rate by society.

After all, that is not the truth about humanity because everyone has their bad habits, but only a few change them or use them to move forward.

As a believer in second chances, I think everyone needs them.
That would make people richer and more forgiving to themselves.

 A prisoner goes out, a drug dealer stops the sales, or an alcoholic becomes sober all the time. That means they went to hell and back. These humans have been wherever no one of the regular people who had good school education, stable financial situation, and weird, but somehow acceptable, family situations, have been.

Those, claimed as second-rate people have the most qualities for success. They learned the hard way to be humanitarian, empaths, and have the will, and power, to change the known world for the best.

These second-rate people with bad habits are far closer to saints because they were once devils. Believe it or not, the so-called second-rate people can manage better. They are more intelligent than lethargic, bored employees who think they have the best work in the famous company, sitting on their buts without changing anything for themselves or others.

The employees have not met any hurdles in their lives, knowing nothing about reality and being human.

The point of my current blog post is that every human counts.

Equality is the bridge that connects hearts, bringing meaningful leadership and better connections between personalities. I don’t say abuse in any form needs to be respected, but just to be thought why it happened twice.

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