Acceptance

Accepting The Situations As They Are

Accepting the situations as they are

Accepting The Situations As They Are

Is

A Must For Keep Going Forward.

People face many situations in life. Some of them are painful, others misunderstood, but there is one thing for sure – they happen, and the reaction toward them brings consequences.

Whatever happened, it could not change. The only way out is moving forward through the pain, sorrow, uncertainty, and broken heart. Every one of these challenges leads to a better life and more wisdom.

Recently, I had another destabilized relationship with an important person. It was funny how the conflict started from zero and the misunderstanding from both sides. For me is the norm to call it quits when someone pushes my buttons by choice. That’s why I am a loner. Respect should be shown in everything people do. Mutual understanding is a must in every type of relationship. Pointing out faults or weaknesses doesn’t work for anyone.

However, the situations should be accepted as they are by the involved humans. People rarely are on the same page in their relationships or life crossroads. It’s seldom for both parties to walk by each other side until the end of time.

I have that dream and know it’s a mirage because Nobody loves no one is today’s life motto.

In general, situations separate into edifying, surviving, and untested. The three types enrich life in different ways. These situations are part of daily routines, relationship patterns, and self-consciousness.

Edifying situations are accepted as they are, healing the heart

That type of situation is connected with heartbroken experiences from the loss of every kind of love and betrayal. In short, everything that strokes the heart, and it doesn’t matter how small the thing is, when there is heartache, there is edifying.

For example, when a friend turns in romantic interest or a person moves out of the parent’s or ex-lover’s house, that is an enlightening experience that is painful and sorrowful at its beginning. Time becomes a basis to become a wise person who finds the mind’s peace after the whirlwind of emotions.

I have experienced edifying situations many times in my love life, but today I realized every past disappointment, present expectation, and future belief in a person. It was challenging for my emotions today’s morning, but now I can say everyone is free to go. Tears were falling from my eyes, but every drop gave me light, transparency, and a reason to smile because of my fond heart’s memories that no one can steal from me.

Sadly, I’m unlucky in love, but maybe at that current moment is not my thing to have a lover. Starting now, I have no will or time to date or woo someone, because many projects await me. So, I do what I have to do without distractions. If someone is brave and in love with me, we will enter each other’s worlds.

Surviving situations should be accepted as they are, giving the best professional sessions

Most people want to succeed in life, but that happens with many failures on the career path. An empty pocket is the best teacher of ambition. Living in poverty or having a low-paid job gives great motivation, but often unhealthy.

Ambitions can lead to stepping over people, using them for personal interest, and forgetting what humanity is. It’s good to have a reminder or two that there should be a proper and respectful attitude toward everyone.

My example of careers can give a good idea of what I am writing.

When I was in Multi Level Marketing, I failed many times to attract new associates and clients. These failures taught me many skills I use today in advising interested people, having unplanned consultations, and earning some money, which brings food to my table. One of my future goals is to be a life coach, and I will succeed because it comes naturally to me.

Other types of failure I got were my 100 rejections from Poetry Competitions but I wrote a book, becoming a showman of my little circus. Thanks to these rejections, I got the motivation to write more and become a perfect poet and blogger in my eyes, who inspires others to succeed.

Untested situations should be accepted as they are, creating a new experience and building courage.

That type of situation needs an open mind, bravery, and unlistening to people’s opinions. Not many humans can go on without gossiping and in solitude. The untested situations are the most dangerous and eye-opening ones. The takers want to go out of their comfort zone. Diving into the unknown is not everyone’s taste. But it’s mine, and that makes me authentic.

What About You?

That weekend, I joined the African dance course without having a slight idea what it was about. I felt energized from that experience. Feeling people’s positive energy is something I craved for a long time and experienced this training with every fiber of my body. It was amazing and I felt like I danced that for a long time, but the instructors were the best I know so far.

The situation was untested and highly intimidating because I do not like to have any imperfect steps, but if my choice was to not go on that course, I would never know what it’s like to be there. After the two classes, I was happy, and my child was too. We did something enjoyable together and spent quality time outside the ordinary settings. I call that living, and my child – childhood.

Many people do not like to test new things because they have fears of something, but as the old saying goes: “It’s better to try than die without doing it” is eternally valid.

Fears do not save when people are on their deathbeds, but memories of something unusual done create motivation to fight the sickness and live, or to be grateful for what happened, without regrets.

I highly encourage going into untested situations and doing it all the time. It gives me adrenaline, happy moments, and unforgettable experiences, having no regrets about living my life. My example to my child, and other people who know me, should be like that.

I may seem eccentric, unusual, and an outsider, but the truth is simple: I live my life to its fullest, because my tomorrow may never come.

What about you?

My today’s confession ends today. Thank you for reading, and  I hope I made you think.

Accepting Untested Situations as They are

 

 

 

 

Bad Habits Do Not Make People Second-Rate

No Second-Rate People

Bad Habits Do Not Make People Second-Rate

And They Do Better

As a fighter for my justice and defending humans that are not sheep, I stand up once again. That time, for the people with bad habits. We all know someone who is a thief, an alcoholic, a drug dependent, a mafia member, a prisoner, or even a killer.

Usually, humans play dead or are blind, when they hear about life’s grey side in the towns, clubs, human traffic, etc.

In general, society is old-fashioned and claims people out of the ordinary life’s course in its view. I say without a doubt that people living on the dark side are no less perfect than those, who spend their lives on the bright life’s side.

That may sound crazy but I am a devotee of the good side of all people. I know that someone who decides to stay sober, lives an ordinary life after prison, or is in a mafia situation, is also a human who needs respect. I always look behind the reasons for the human attitude and dig so deep that I can see the most unbelievable proof that a person is good despite the things done in his past.

Everything has a reason, and when it comes to humans, I stick to that they make mistakes, learn from them, and become better persons.

I say that because I have been close to people with drug and alcohol dependence and also have worked with people from the mafia, or with suicidal thoughts. As a psychological consultant for group therapy a few years ago, I know some things because some of my closest-to-heart people were also dependent on their bad habits.

That doesn’t make them less human or second-rate people.

If a chance is given for better life, job, or relationship, those involved in the dark side of life may go to great lengths, proving they deserve the best too. The criminal minds are sharper and more schematic or organized than regular people’s brains, which are learned from a book. The criminals only act and practice. They have their reasons that indeed may be more human than the known.

Some people steal or sell drugs to feed their families. It is not appropriate in the eyes of society, but still, if people understand the reasons, they see there is a logical explanation. I am not saying all should do bad things, but they are part of the personality.

If people are sincere with themselves, they will see that they also have bad habits, but probably not enough motivation to do second-rate deeds.

The truth I and everyone know is that all need the motivation to do something, is it not?

Let’s say that the reasons for a concrete behavior started from a young age. Many persons I have met told me that they were beaten at home or verbally abused. They changed from good schoolers to the worst because of their grades.

Is it that education or lack of elementary respect toward a decent human being?

In my opinion, children need to be praised for almost everything they do. Of course, I do not support inappropriate behavior, but there should always be balance.

The equilibrium can be built very well with different methods. Relationships between parents, and children, and their actions may stabilize with talks or psychological consultation if needed.

That would make bad habits less showing.

Most people do whatever to be seen by their closest people, thinking that will bring the attention of a concrete person toward themselves. That may be a father, mother, sibling, or lover’s figure. The problem can be solved before joining criminal life with a simple conversation.

The main reason for bad habits usually is the lack of love at home from parents or siblings. They may put too many responsibilities on the children, robbing them of their only one childhood.

To escape the feeling of dissatisfaction, many humans take a different way to distract themselves from the reality they do not like.

These ways may be drugs, alcohol, or other activity that is claimed as bad. It is easy to judge people and their actions without thinking about their situation. It is like showing your middle finger to attract attention from the police or other people to be noticed. That usually works for a short period, but not for a long-term situation.

The same can be said for going deep into the bad habits, leading to being in places that challenge, or creating illusions you are on the right path. All this is seen as second-rate by society.

After all, that is not the truth about humanity because everyone has their bad habits, but only a few change them or use them to move forward.

As a believer in second chances, I think everyone needs them.
That would make people richer and more forgiving to themselves.

 A prisoner goes out, a drug dealer stops the sales, or an alcoholic becomes sober all the time. That means they went to hell and back. These humans have been wherever no one of the regular people who had good school education, stable financial situation, and weird, but somehow acceptable, family situations, have been.

Those, claimed as second-rate people have the most qualities for success. They learned the hard way to be humanitarian, empaths, and have the will, and power, to change the known world for the best.

These second-rate people with bad habits are far closer to saints because they were once devils. Believe it or not, the so-called second-rate people can manage better. They are more intelligent than lethargic, bored employees who think they have the best work in the famous company, sitting on their buts without changing anything for themselves or others.

The employees have not met any hurdles in their lives, knowing nothing about reality and being human.

The point of my current blog post is that every human counts.

Equality is the bridge that connects hearts, bringing meaningful leadership and better connections between personalities. I don’t say abuse in any form needs to be respected, but just to be thought why it happened twice.

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