Reasons For Cheating Summary

Reasons For Cheating Summary

Reasons for  Cheating Summary

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It has been a long time since my last post. The past month was chaotic.

After all, everyone has these times that teach appreciable life lessons.

Since I have some family problems, I want to share my opinion today about cheating reasons.
This topic is not great, but it gives a good amount of information on where a person is on the life path and how people see themselves.

Why do I think recently of cheating?

As time went by, both partners in one relationship forget about each other because they are too busy with their own lives.
I have read a lot of sources about cheating because I wanted to understand the topic better. Some of the sources I shared in the post.
Other sources were people from real life.

Unfortunately, most of them are women. It seems that more women these days think about cheat and doing it.

Why does this happen?

Because a woman feels unprecious.
I tell you also from personal experience that when I go home, I felt that way accompanied by murmuring and underestimating my working efforts.

I had the feeling that it is expected of me to do so many things that aren’t possible to be done physically at the same time. They were housework, caring for the kid and myself, and earning money. When I try to explain, it is as good as I am talking to the wall.
Women shouldn’t treat as second-hand people.
After I have read all sources I could find, I summarized the reasons for cheating like this.

  1. Lack of communication and accepting the wife or the husband as a part of the decoration.

At the beginning of every relationship, there are romantic gestures like flowers, dining out, and a lot of talking. When both partners spend enough time together, they forget about giving gifts and talk about everything with each other.

The partners begin to forget about the other partner’s need for talk and care. They stop sharing the interests they had before the start of their life together. With this, the downfall of the relationship is guaranteed.

At the same time, women spend a lot of time online talking on social media and easily find a new partner to talk to since the husband doesn’t care about what they do during the day or night. All gestures of attention are gone, and women feel that they are unseen anymore. That hurts a lot of their ego, and some stop neglecting their outlook.

Going out with messy hair, chipped nails, and the same ten-years clothes seriously are not attractive. But the motivation to stay fit, pretty, and self-caring, is long gone because of the lack of compliments, small gestures, and male attention.

This situation makes a woman silent, doing her jobs unmotivated and like routine. She loses the spark in her eyes and becomes invincible in her and her partner’s eyes.

On the husband’s side, things are not looking pink too. When he started to date his wife, he was attached to her, wanting to win her over, and the chemistry was so strong.
After some time, he begins to see her unperfections, forgetting she always tried to make herself up to him.
The man begins to feel not content because he doesn’t get attention.

The woman, in her pursuits, to make the home clean and the kids – well-raised, has no time to pay attention to her husband anymore.
Here the husband should understand that he also needs to help with the house, but in most cases, men irritate to do the housewife’s job.

That is a good reason for the relationship breakup.

The husband feels he doesn’t own his wife anymore and irritates she doesn’t look at him. He stops doing any gestures toward her because he doesn’t feel interested anymore, and she is not as pretty as before.

The man feels lonely and goes out with friends most of the time. He needs to talk to someone about his worries too, but his partner is always busy. That turns him off.

The communication between both parties stops, and they become roommates with or without children.

The husband begins to feel unseen and stops taking care of his outlook, forgetting his interests because he needs to speak too, but no one listens.
That makes his motivation go away. He usually finds a new woman or goes into a deep depression that leads to apathetic, and aggressive behavior.

In both cases, the family partners accept each other as a part of the interior decoration of the house.


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2. Roommates with, or without, children.

It is true children are the most precious thing in a human’s life. But when the parents are unsure that they are with the right person and do not want to share responsibilities with the newborn, the child becomes a to-do list.
Children need the full attention of their mothers.

That is the reason why most husbands leave their wives with the baby.

Men feel forgotten when a child is born.

The wife is tired when only she takes care of the kid. She can’t sleep, bathe or do anything while the husband doesn’t see he is fit to help.

Most men think they shouldn’t change diapers, give a bath to the kid, or do anything else regarding the baby.
Husbands think this is only the mother’s job.  They do not care for other housework engagements because they are shocked by the new life that came at home and changed anything.
Wives have to deal with all post-pregnancy and after-birth depression. As mothers, they need time to adapt to the new situation for taking care of the baby.

One month of the acceptance of the new life period is required.
That is a crucial period for family life between both partners. If the father’s kid doesn’t show the same care as the mother, problems will arise. When they occur, in the condition the mother is in, most likely both partners start to argue.
The husband should control his emotions and understands the chaotic feelings his wife has. Otherwise, that can lead to separation.
Children, in general, are the main reason people stay together or divorce. They are the most beautiful thing in the world for the parents, but only if parents accept each other, as they are, with all their good sides, and flaws.
Often a family breaks when a baby is born because the communication and interactions between husband and wife are not enough, physically speaking.

That creates conflicts between both adults.

Under interactions, I do not meet only sexual ones, but even touch, a hug, and something elementary. Parents are stressed out when the newborn baby comes home, and the husband and wife are afraid, unsure, and trying to adapt better.
Both parties can’t hold so many new things on their own, but often they scream at each other from the tiredness they feel.

Every situation can resolve by speaking calmly and work together to achieve more.

When parents stay together with the kid as a family but forget to share things between themselves, they become roommates with the children. They prefer to quarrel than move out of the broken home. That is probably a mistake that costs all the family sorrow.

Humans always make mistakes, but they may learn from them.

Indeed, roommates with children, are probably the wrong family choice. But too much courage is needed for the one roommate with children to take a step outside.
That makes both partners irritated and look for affairs outside. Somewhere, where they feel treasured and appreciated.

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3. Absence of Common Interests and no Will to search for new ones.

A strong reason for cheating is the lack of common interests, and the missing determination to find new ones.
When two partners live too much time together, they lose the first interest that connected them.

As time goes by, they lose the bond they made during the first years of the partnership.

During the first meetings, the communication between both partners is compelling and inspiring. Then the years go by, and they say whatever they wanted to say, shared whatever they wanted to share, and the conversations go empty.
Topics of similar interest and shared hobbies fade and then comes the boredom of daily life routines.

Here, people in marriage should put in a lot of work. But this only happens if there is a will between both partners to search for new ones. If no willpower, it is a matter of time for both parties to move on to someone they meet accidentally and make them curious.
That means both partners in a relationship should always work on developing themselves and finding new sides. They should try new things which wake up a new interest toward them in the other partner.

When there is a newly discovered experience in long-term relationships, the family partners will not be bored with each other.

For this reason cheating, most families fail because all need to be listened to and appreciated.

Wife and husbands should prove they are still interested in each other weekly at least. Of course, showing daily care is preferable, but every human needs a break from others sometimes.
Many people neglect their partner so much and accept each other as given. They go so uninterested in building a deeper relationship that there is a matter of time before it goes into ruins.

Cheating, in general, is not a good thing, but there are always reasons for doing something.

People usually do not look at the reasons for doing something but listen to their emotions.

That is not a bad thing because everyone can get hurt, but the important is to understand the motives and forgive in the heart with time.
When the cheat is discovered, partners probably will not stay together anymore.

But, if they have deep love between them, they can consider their second, and last chance to change for good, or bad.
Many humans say that if their mate had a love affair, numerous affairs will follow. Probably they have rights, but if they do not change their behavior, knowing the concrete reasons for these actions, things will never change for them.
If you ask me, when I have a partner I find cheating, I will leave him right away without a second thought. It is not sure that is the best decision.

Probably, in that situation, people should be logical and rational.

Here comes the thin limit between searching for a cheat that sure will be found, or a hidden affair that happened once, and the partner may never find out about it.

Sometimes things happen accidentally when too much stress or so deep disappointment in the partner.

That is why people should communicate more in every life field, but not with scandals. A high voice tone always leads to bad situations.

Reasons for human behavior are always considered as the beginning of a new life transformation. It is an experience that leads to a new personality dimension, including cheating too.

Before judging the partner, both sides should look for the reasons behind cheating.


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Wearing Red Dress With Confidence

That Is All Women Need To Feel Inspired.

Many women lack self-esteem. That is because they do not look pretty enough in their own eyes. It doesn’t matter if the reason is overweight, cellulite or acne on the face. The outlook changes with time and age.
The problem here is not the look outside, but the feeling women have inside.
Worries at home, work, and social relationships play a huge role in low women’s confidence. The television stereotypes that women should look likewise, and social media hit hard the self-esteem.
The media is part of the daily lives of everyone.

What can we all do?

Just ignore the thought that everyone should be the same on the outside look.
The most important thing is to be realistic.

What does one woman have and what not?

When this is understood, things change. All women can wear a proudly red dress. The important thing is the clothing style of that dress.

But what is the red dress?

That is the self-confidence of women themselves. They should wear good quality clothes even if they feel bad inside.
The quality doesn’t mean the most expensive dress, but the one that fits right on women’s bodies. For example, curvy girls should wear clothes that show well their better body parts than problematic ones.
Speaking metaphorically, red is the color of confidence and strength. Today’s women live a different life than in the old times. They emancipate but want to stay women also. That can happen but without the expectation of better treatment.
When the girl is younger, she wants to be sexy without knowing the right thing about this look.
A sexy look is not to show up the body’s part, but to be a confident woman. Wherever women go, they should look adequate for their age and have a human attitude.
It doesn’t matter how bad one woman feels, but she should take care of herself.

Who else will do it?

Most men look for beautiful girls they can control. A girl that he can show up to. That is not a bad thing but is too ordinary.
The difference between pretty girls and mature women wearing red dresses is simple. Girls want to show their bodies to invite men to take care of them by playing stupid with their beauty. Another reason is that the girls are lazy to grow up and invest money in themselves, and I mean their minds.
Mature Women that wear red dresses have their dignity. They know they are not so pretty and carefree as younger ones, but they have more consistency. They have a career, children, and their shoulders to lay.
Mature women are partners, and young girls are not.
A red dress can be worn only by a woman that knows where she is going and treasures herself.
When women give childbirth, they forget about themselves and take care of their looks.

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It is inevitable for the woman to go back on herself. Because when the woman age, she understands better new day she can see her child and the sunrise is a gift.
The clothes she wore are dusty as her role as the victim should be taken care of by someone else.
The young glitter and naivety fade away because a grown-up, mature woman knows most of her life is gone.
When children grow up, husbands become distant and uncaring a safe place for the woman is herself. She should wear the best she can for all that she has been through in her life.
That means the red dress. Expectations are gone, naivety too, and there is no more need for a mature woman to make herself pretty for someone else than her.
The red dress brings up the boldness, lust for life, and the motivation to move on.
After every break-up with a man or friend, the grown woman knows she still has herself. She always will.
In the bottle of wine and tears drawn, the woman becomes a better version of herself, a wiser one. A load of worries begins to become chaotic until it fades.
The problematic figure becomes the best sanctuary that hides the purer soul of one wiser woman.
The red dress also brings strength to fight with daily routines. The woman sees a different point of view. She begins to accept that she will not be young again and that no more men will chase her because she is now an equal partner that can not be easily impressed.
Undoubtedly, that makes her proud and feel unworthy because she is not a stereotyped media model, fading away.
The problem here comes if the woman doesn’t accept herself as she is.

If the woman doesn’t accept her flaws, it is not good. She will not grow up. Here comes low self-esteem with phrases like: “I am not pretty, nobody will take me” or “I have nothing to do with my life anymore”.

May I ask why?

For example, you gave birth, and you have to see your kid at the prom. Probably the kids are grown, and you are alone at home. Asking me, that is a great thing, to learn something new and enrich your life. You can dance, write and do whatever you like. Nobody will watch or judge you.

Or you may be a successful business lady?

So you did it, girl! There is always a reason to feel proud and to move on.
Life is too short for any delays, so it should be enlightening daily.
After I gave birth to my kid, I became stronger and healthier. Now I am great at dancing Zumba and also in blogging. My discipline is better, and I am more organized. If an ordinary woman like me can do it, all can do it too.
All is about the mind’s peace. As soon as women accept they can do all they want to, they will do it. They understand they are on their own. No man can bring a woman back to life. But she can do it.
I also bought a red dress, and I wear it proudly. I never thought to try to wear a red dress. But now I can feel myself in it. All my experiences and bittersweet life lessons are my honor.
Is it true my luck in my love life is missing, but do I need any outside love? It will come when the time is right.
Women with red dresses are great partners. They will not suffocate men and will not accept some sweet-coated words without actions. That is happiness and wearing a proudly red dress.

It was Long ago Sheakspere told it: “Do you know why I am happy? Because I do not expect anything from anyone.”

In the end, after every hard life lesson, women go proudly with their makeup, stilettos, and red nails too.

Or should I say like my friend and Zumba trainer Irene Barrera “When life is hard, let’s dance through it!”

Wearing a red dress is a thing that all women should remember when they are feeling bad.
Your dress is unique and meaningful. Just imagine it and collect its pieces.

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