Do You Prefer Love Catalog?
Is It About The Dehumanizing Art Of Online Dating?
As per today’s confession, I will be a little peppery. My love for physical closeness and emotional depth in a partnership is unquestionable, but I am also highly disappointed by online dating applications and social platforms.
Single people look for romance online or give up the search for a partner forever for many reasons. I am one of those who stopped looking for love, after using the Tinder dating application.
I wasted two hours of my life using that application before the live concerts I went to, starts. It’s expensive, with unreal expectations and fake pictures based on my experience.
Everyone loves gifts or sales catalogs. Tinder and other similar applications are just like that. Giving money to choose from men’s pictures to chat without any serious idea where the chat will go is not attractive.
I started to wonder when people started using catalogs in a relationship’s partner’s search conquest. Fears of rejection, shyness, and lack of courage to make the first steps toward someone desirable are not just funny, but it’s a tragical-comical way to show insecurities.
Humans are not cataloged. However, if they accept themselves as ones, showing off on online dating websites, it’s not my problem. It only shows how the dehumanizing art of online dating takes a more powerful stand daily. That is pitiful and highly disrespectful toward a person.
Or maybe it’s easier to abandon a chatting partner who, by the way, is human than to have a clear idea of where the conversation should go and finish.
I chatted on Tinder with someone living in my neighborhood. It was written he is under 1 km distance and when inviting him to a coffee out, he disappeared. It was not even about a date to a fancy place but for a vending coffee machine outside to meet personally, which is the best communication approach. Running away solves the situation temporarily.
People look confident in words online and their wishes, but when it comes to breaking their comfort zone while going into live-action, everyone fades away somewhere unknown. I am fed up with doing the first steps toward a man, once again.
What will happen if someone gets rejected or fall in love with the wrong person?
It’s a painful experience to get rejected but it’s better to try than not to. It’s better to experience feelings and have good memories than do nothing. Humans are not robots and they will never be. It doesn’t matter how far they run to excel, work productively and hard. Professional life limits the heart’s comfort, and that is good to remember because it’s not working in the long term. Accepting it or not, that is the inevitable truth. Until then, it’s good to think twice about love cataloged online.
The Dehumanizing Art Of Online Dating
While I swept through many male profiles on Tinder, the feeling of choosing an item didn’t fade away. I saw also over 99 males liked my profile. Then I felt like a slice of meat. The human is not only pictures and some last-second thought words. My life is seen as unconventional but I am proud because it’s mine. Many people see me as abnormal, distant, cold, independent, or psycho. I am all that, and they are right to judge me as they wish. The sure thing is my humanizing attitude in everything I do toward everyone I know one way or another in my life.
Online dating makes people fit into stereotypes, cutting their wings to improvement on their pace and claiming them as unfit in today’s dating reality.
Recently, I got angry at a Facebook post that men want comfortable women that will not create stress for them. The same goes for the female part. People are not sofas for others to rest. If someone can’t express themselves freely with every side they have toward a partner, it’s just fake closeness and nothing else. These relationships are doomed from the start.
In the past, I always thought about what to say and how to act in the face of my past partners. That made me uncomfortable. The freedom to express me, bring trouble in finding someone to be with, but my mind peace got better.
True love is not easy and it’s acceptance of every weird side of the other person which makes them cute and real. Online dating can’t happen because of the forced and limited thinking of how to attract attention from the opposite sex.
Two Days Before Valentine’s Day
One of the falsest life events and looking for sex is international love day. If romance strengthens on a certain date, there is something amiss. Gifts and flowers on a specific date are a bit hypocritical. True romantic love should be celebrated daily between two partners who care for each other. Tomorrow is promised to no one.
However, I was amazed by the deep affection an older couple showed me on my favorite Bulgarian rock group “No More Many More” last Friday night. As usual, I made a reservation for two for an event. Ending up alone at a live concert never bothered me. I am used to that and feel no shame showing my emotions in public, not caring for social opinion. A couple joined me at the table. We introduced ourselves and I loved them both.
Even at the gold age, they danced and showed love toward each other like the first days of a young romance.
I asked them to take the picture I posted today. Right said, my envy couldn’t be hidden. They were sweet and in love, living for each other and traveling wherever their favorite group had concerts. I wonder how that is possible, but it is. When both people work for the relationship to not become a routine, things continuously are blossoming between both partners.
My dream has always been to have a love like that of those two people. That’s the reason I do not look for short-term fun like most people. A relationship should build from the scratch until the end of the physical life’s circle. I prefer to stay single until I found what I look for than to lie to myself about something I do not have or be love cataloged.
It may take many years to find it, but I will not stop. My old-school morals and principles never lied to me.
However, love has different shapes and one of them is my admiration for the No More Many More group. They have a civil position which they defend fiercely with their music. The band’s name is obvious. They’re emotional and not like the usual rock or boy groups. The artists gave their everything to the concert and weren’t arrogant. They were equal to the public. And that made them more popular.
I do not have much power yet but I want to promote their music through my blog and poetry. These artists deserve much better than what they have now. For those interested, their next concert will be in London on 16.06.2023 at “100 Club” – rock and roll.
Another form of love is meeting new people and sharing interests. I met two new friends at the live concert, so I feel never alone at the events, wherever visit alone or not. Company at face-to-face meetings is far better than online chatting with someone unsure of what he wants.
Whatever is done, personal contact always is the communication winner if people dare to do the first steps. Do You Dare? Or Do You Prefer Love Catalog?