Wasting the happiness potential.
Certain people, with their actions, provoked me to write what I write now- It is ugly indeed, but it is the truth.
I like to use it as a wake-up call to people regarding their dignity and remaining honor as a part of their family.
I speak about a house person’s complex.
It is a sentence I see fit and applies toward house persons. I do not blame people who choose to stay home and take care of the household, but I find it highly inappropriate to cheat your partner until you’re home and are bored. I speak about the period when kids are old enough to care about themselves. They do not need their parent’s help anymore.
House people sit at home, doing nothing about improving themselves or their relationship with the other parent of their kids.
Usually, when house people have free time, they look at their phones.
They start to flirt online or play mobile video games.
They do not make something to develop themselves and the family’s dynamic.
I am highly disappointed in parents with kids that hate their partners but stay with them, using them for money. They don’t take steps to improve themselves in any better version. These house people use chats and games to fantasize about some wind-whirling romance, and they stop working on their own in reality.
In the end, they are left alone and unloved by their real-life partner. Of course, the one parent will leave the broken family’s relationship, taking the kids.
Is that not a high price for false online romance?
That is a form of cheating too. The situation will lead to worse activities. Domestic abuse may pop up, and divorce may follow. Kids will see and apply it in their adult lives.
The time spent online should be used purposefully on self-improving or caring for the stability of the family’s unit. Most people today indeed lead single-parent life.
But, if there is a possibility to stay in a whole family, and both partners want to work on it, there should be a better free online time investment.
I do not understand how it is possible to choose an online date, and then do your best to improve your family situation. I also had some online crushes, but they stood where their place is – online. And I am not proud, I have been there where many house persons are now. I understand the reasons behind flirting online, but I do not accept them to be the reason to neglect your real-life family.
Fantasies for love are way too deep in our current lives, but the truth is different. To love someone, you need to love yourself.
Currently, If I have to choose between an online flirt and an online course to improve my skills, my choice will be the course.
House persons, with free time, should work toward making themselves better parents and spouses. Looking for love online when you have chosen to be with someone, and have children, is not meaningful.
At least, the marriage deserves a chance to improve. If all possibilities for improvement between both parents are used up, then packing the bags, and those of the kids, come in handy.
The house persons should leave or try to save their marriages if they are not happy.
Sitting at home cheating with an online lover is pitiful. Either break up with him and work on yourself or stay with him, breaking your child and spouse’s hearts.
There should be a choice people make.
But, there can be not having both online and family love. It is disgusting and fake and will give a bad example to the children involved.
But yes, humans make mistakes and bear their consequences.
Even so, that is not making a person justified – it makes it look irresponsible.
My point is, the house persons should lead a loyal and faithful marriage life, trying their best to improve and save what they have. If there is nothing in that marriage to save, people better leave it clean and proudly.
Tolerance between marriage partners has its limits. Remember the reasons why you married that person. When the connection between both spouses has shattered, sitting and doing nothing will not help.
House persons should think carefully about what consequences will bring their boredom and time-killing choices will reflect in their family life.
Yes, it is true “Love is found anywhere,” but before stepping into the numerous outside marriage’s relationship, think first about what you want to achieve from it.
Do you have the guts to drop what you have, taking your children with you?
If you do not have the courage, strength, and will to sacrifice what you have and go on your single hard life path, stop until it is not too late.
My experience is by being in online relationships and giving away too many chances to my former, almost, spouse.
Think for the future and see the bigger life picture.
lf people bear the consequences of their own choices if they are brave enough to accept them.
Careful thinking about every step in the lives before and after separation gives the answers if cheating is meaningful for people’s lives.